The Importance of Self-Awareness in Relationships

 

Self awareness provides us with the emotional intelligence to successfully interact with others, the more deeply we know ourselves and why we do what we do, the more we can understand others, and with this understanding we can start to let go of judgement and bring more compassion to situations and therefore be less impacted by life. 

Self awareness is knowing what makes you tick, why you make the choices you do, why you think the way you do and how this impacts your life and that of the people around you. 

“To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.” ―Socrates 

How to become more self-aware.

1. Learn to see yourself objectively – honing the art of self reflection is an important tool to develop self awareness. To do this well it requires honesty and lack of judgement. If you find you are judging others and defending your position, then you are only seeing life from a narrow, one sided point of view where there is no room from personal growth. Take a broad view on life and yourself, take time to feel what is true for you and what is not. You may find you have been unconsciously subscribing to a way of being that does not align with who you truly are. By becoming aware of this, you can begin to let it go. 

2. Reflect with another – Find someone you feel comfortable enough to be completely honest with, someone who will not judge you but provide constructive feedback. Doing this can provide invaluable support in your evolution. A great way to do this is with a therapist or other professional who is practiced at being objective and non judgemental in their response. When you can start to decentralise and see things from another’s point of view it is easier to see how change can be possible in all areas of your life. 

3. Keep a Journal – By keeping a journal you are able to see patterns of behaviour that occur in your life. Being able to see theses trends you can look for triggers or things you do that feed the pattern which opens up an opportunity to make different choices. When you journal things that you do each day; what you eat, whether you exercise or not and can see a link in the behaviour that follows these choices. One of the ways you can do this is by using the OurCycles App, a tool that is designed for both men and women to track your feelings and moods and make notes about your day. It is a great tool for self reflection. 

4. Nominate things you want to address – When you are able to clearly see those choices or ways of being that are not working for you, only then you can begin to truly address them. 

Growth and developing self awareness is an ongoing journey, one where you never truly arrive. So take your time and make it an everyday part of what you do and reap the rich rewards of living a life that is about evolution and personal growth. 

Kate Chorley is a psychotherapist & couples therapist practicing in the Parramatta & Blacktown areas of Western Sydney. She supports her clients in raising their self-awareness to lead more productive and fulfilling lives. Contact here or phone 0402134097 to make an appointment.